From Something to Nothingness~
The most worthwhile task one will encounter in his lifetime is to come to know who he or she really is inwardly down to the core of his or her being.
Relating to God, people and all things from that place of authenticity is next.
You can strive for money and things, provisions, degrees, notoriety etc. but until you have made the ultimate journey into self you have gathered naught.
The desire to belong arises from feeling empty. Because of that emptiness we seek to fill it with things, accomplishments, other people and what we deem will make us successful and famous. Once you are famous, you convince yourself that your emptiness if fulfilled, surrounded by awards and dwindling greenbacks your soon left only with memories. People approach you from time to time remembering who you were or the thing that you did and it feels good momentarily but then, you slip back into dusty waning memories denying that emptiness is still your closest ally.
Depression and self loathing commence as your awards fade and tarnish.
Being empty may be one of the most wonderful of experiences one can hope for. For in that emptiness, in that quietude we find the original state before creation was. Only what appeared as emptiness was the fullness of God~
The Law of Honesty beckons us to not deceive ourselves. When we live according to our highest Light, more Light will be given.
Today’s Scripture
1Cor 11:28 For if we judge ourselves, we need not be judged.
Today’s Affirmation
The Law of the Lord is perfect converting the soul. The testimony of the Lord is pure, making wise the simple. Today I will apply the Law of Honesty in my life and it will dispel all self deceit. As I live according to my Highest Light, more Light will be given.
Peace and Blessings on Your Journey into You!
Vivian Gale@ www.viviangale.com
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Monday, April 19, 2010
Stop Complaining! 10 Steps to a Happier You!
Is your relationship going downhill? I’d bet if you sit back for a few minutes and think you might just remember constantly complaining about what your significant other is not, or does not do; or do anymore. Don’t worry. It happens to the best of us sooner or later. Once the honeymoon stage is over you start seeing your mate for what they really are. All the things you use to love about him or her become annoyances.
It is of my utmost opinion that women tend to fall into this trap a bit more than men. Why? Because as women we’ve been fed fantasies about what love and marriage should be or are suppose to be like from the time we are children. From our Parents, society, Priest and Pastors, siblings, friends and TV talk shows that get you thinking, you’re getting the short stick. Television Talk Shows and Magazines tend to target women because women are the biggest consumers and audience for there shows and stories. Our “should's” form our beliefs. Need I say, these beliefs are irrational.
Statistics have always shown that the ratio of men to women decreases as we age. Women outlive men and the rate in which people are openly choosing same sex lifestyles is changing the face of our nation and narrowing our choices. Many people today are lonely. It’s hard to imagine anyone being lonely in a world filled with so many people.
Learn to look at the good in your partner and life. I’m sure you can think of many couples that are worse off then you. And focus on what is your reality instead of what you wish was your reality.
Count your blessings; you’re never going to get all your needs met in one person. In fact, it’s not fair to expect one person to live up to all your expectations, wants and desires. That’s too much pressure to put on any relationship. In fact; if you learn to live by this principle “expect nothing from anyone, because nobody owes you a thing. Therefore anything anyone does for you is a gift” you will be much better off.
You certainly can try and be demanding with the gifts you receive as well but where is the love in that? The more pressure we apply to a person through nagging and complaining we disable them from fulfilling what we want because we are weakening them and draining the very strength they need to make us happy. Desire only what comes from a persons’ heart. In America we have so much and keep expecting more and more however and wherever it comes to us. But making someone else responsible for your happiness is always a disaster waiting to happen.
Solution: Model the behavior you want back.
Compliment and thank your partner whenever they do something that makes you happy. Start thanking them for small things like paying a bill or taking out the trash. Let them know how much they’re appreciated. Women tend to set the emotional tone for the relationship. So, start on a positive note and stay on it. Keep your negative thoughts to yourself. Mull over them and think of diplomatic ways to get your message across without complaining. Or just decide to let it go. I challenge you to go 2 days or even a week without complaining about anything your partner says or does and see what a difference it makes. I’m sure you’ll be amazed at the results.
Be grateful. After a couple of days you will become grateful for what you have. Many of my friends are single and lonely. And how I remember the times when I was. Once you’re over 30 it becomes more difficult to find a mate. There are plenty of single people out there, but they have all got scars and are afraid. Fear then is also a hidden factor that causes our complaining. We’re afraid someone’s cheating; lying; or hiding something from us. We become afraid we’re going to lose our lover and thus project that fear into the relationship by questioning; nagging and complaining. You begin to act and feel like a spy. Believe me, it’s a lot of work being this way and you risk getting the very results you fear.
10 Tips to a Happier You
1) Stop Complaining
2) Look At the Bright side
3) Model the behavior you want from your Partner
4) Say thank you and compliment your partner for the things they do
5) Examine your fears. Be sure you are always acting from love and not fear.
6) Give the benefit of the doubt.
7) Be realistic Stop allowing your mind to run into madness, fantasy and obsessive thinking.
8) Take control of your thoughts and your behavior will change.
9) Be Happy!
10) When you find yourself unhappy-STOP!-say to yourself; “I choose happiness in this moment.” Then, let go of the negative thought and replace it with a positive one. One that is true about your situation. And of course, read my book.
Vivian Gale, AS., BA., Counselor, Author of “Fart In The Wind” An Emotional and Spiritual Guide to Effective and Graceful Communication with Anybody. www.viviangale.com
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Follow Me . . . Dance With Me!
Follow Me . . . Dance With Me!
Who knows what a day will bring?
Not I said the girl
Not I said the man
Not I said the woman
Not I said the lad.
Not even I know always, said Spirit.
For my actions are dictated, held and formed
By each choice you make.
By the dance of faith you tap with life.
By the leap of hope seeping from you
And the spring of desire finding its freedom
I stand beside you.
Gently I nudge you to what’s best for you
But you always have to make the choice!
This existence is built on desire and choice
Both actions are stirred within the heart
Within the man
Within the woman
Within the boy
Within the girl.
Every choice you make is like
Taking a step onto the grand ballroom floor of life.
Waltz with me and I will elegantly whisk you into
Your great blissful beyond!
The more you follow
All the more will I lead!
The more you will be saturated by my essence
The more I will breathe into you
The more we will dance.
Dance you into the truth of your being!
Here in Now!
~viviangale~ 12/29/09 ©
Monday, December 21, 2009
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Monday, August 31, 2009
Been On A Good Date Lately?
I'm reminded in this struggling economy of times in my life that were empty, lonely and barren "dark seasons." Times of sadness and hardships that either tear a person up or bring people together. On the mountaintop we celebrate, but it's in the vallies that transformation takes place.
In my personal life these are the times when I really got with God and myself. Actually more like God getting me to himself for a while without distraction. Those have been some of the hardest and most difficult to endure when resisting them. But once I yielded and accepted this time of peace, grace, and of not knowing…what was in my tomorrows; is when I was able to surrender, let my guards down and trust. Simply trust the same Force that created me to carry me through.
Inspiration and comfort often comes to me in the form of great books in those times. The communion and wisdom birthed is so encompassing and life changing, that I am here to encourage you to be still. Be still with God, get with God, let God get with you. Ask Spirit to guide you and show you what's next. Until then simply breathe…in…out…in…and out. And be comforted knowing that God is standing by. It's time for a date with God.
Fart In The Wind was written during my dates with God, with my own soul and with my own experiences and tears. I've lent you the wisdom I've gained in my "dark seasons," in Fart In the Wind." So, I'm inviting you to spend some time in your "dark seasons" with God. Let Spirit minister to you in a way that only a genuine love interest can. Hitting all you hidden spots and caressing where it hurts, bringing light into the dark corners of uncertainty, today…alone…just you…and God…make the date. Your worth it. There is no better lover.
You can't afford not to read this book. You will see a new you and a new tomorrow before it even comes.
Vivian Gale, aka Freedom Gale, AS., BA
Counselor/Author/Spiritual Mid-Wife
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