Suppressing Negative Emotions

Because of the embarrassment and shame attached to farting, we hold in a lot of crap. We gather painful events and suppress them just like we stuff things in our closets, attics, and basements that we don’t want to throw away. We keep them there for years. But why, why do we put this stuff in storage? We cannot figure out what to do with it, but it must bring us some kind of reward. 

Our attics and basements are filled with old stuff from our past. It may bring fond memories, but holding on to stuff and collecting stuff can easily overcrowd our living space and overcrowd our enjoyable space, just like in the mind.

When our living space/enjoyable spaces become cluttered with old stuff, others seem to recognize it before we do. What happens when they bring it to our attention? We defend our stuff—our baggage. We identify who we are by that old stuff. We cling to it fearing if we let it go we are losing a part of ourselves we need to be happy or content.

For two decades, I carried around a pair of old Thom Mcan shoes I bought when I was seventeen. They were the first things I bought with my paycheck from my first real job. I called them snow stompers. Living on the East Coast, I needed them. Every winter I brought them out and told my children the same story about how long I had them, and how I bought them with my first paycheck from my first job. Then one day about eight years ago, they just disappeared. I suspect my oldest daughter retired them and the stories they carried. Many times, I wish I still had them.

Space is an awesome no-thing. In fact, the universe is composed of more space than actual galaxies, stars, and planets. The earth travels through this space at the rate of 66,700 miles per hour. That is why we feel so inspired at the park or at the waterfront, or in St. Peter’s Cathedral. These places reek of awesome beauty and possibility; they’re also very spacious. 

The more stuff we suppress in our mental and physical space, the more that awesome emptiness drains away, and the more overwhelmed we feel. We need space to enjoy the things that do exist. When you buy a new dress or suit, give one away. Cherish your space more than anything.

Space is an awesome no-thing. That is why we feel so inspired because of it. It is awe-inspiring yet within it exist endless possibilities. It connects to our soul. Keep a clean, spacious consciousness, by not holding on to  junk, such as envy, past hurts, or vengefulness. Even the energy it takes to dislike someone takes up a lot of space in your mind. Negative thought energy disperses inside our mind and body, the same way darkness encompasses the night and pervades everything around it.

Suppressing negative thoughts is like shoving poison deep into your body. Notice the next time a thought comes that you don’t want to deal with; the first reaction is to send it back where it came from, or shove it down inside the body. Pay close attention to how you feel physically the moment you shove that thought back or down inside the body.

There is a noticeable adverse physical reaction, like when you eat something bad and your stomach is in a knot. When I’ve done it, I've actually felt a sensation traveling throughout my body, through my nervous system or blood stream or both, like I ate something I was allergic to. That is one sensation I am well used to.

That feeling is the negative emotion attached to the thought. I learned however, instead of pushing the thoughts and emotion back down, inside the body, I let them come up, one at a time. I visualize the thought moving up, out of the head, and then release it by consciously sending it out of the body. This way it causes no physical harm to the body. The result is a wonderful freedom.

 When I have done this successfully, the thought never returns to me again, ever, with that awful negative emotion attached to it. Try releasing your negative thoughts and feelings this way. If you want them back, you have to go find them in the universe. Good luck with that! Once you set that thought and feeling free, thereby diffusing them, they are gone forever.

Imagine that! If you experience it again, simply repeat the procedure, but this time make sure you have allowed the thought to fully surface before releasing it. For me, once has always been enough. Of course you will think of the situation from time to time, but it will seem like a lifetime ago, and it will have no emotional effect.

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Vivian Gale., AS, BA, Counselor

Author of “Fart in the Wind”, Get Rid of Emotional Flatulence

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On Love and Fear

There are only two emotions; LOVE and FEAR.

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Ø Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards, harms.

Ø Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, and heals.

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o  Fear wraps our bodies in clothing.

o  Love allows us to stand, naked.

o  Fear clings to and clutches all that we have.

o  Love gives all that we have away.

o  Fear grasps

o  Love lets go.

o  Fear infuriates

o  Love soothes.

o  Fear attacks

o  Love amends

             -Neal Donald Walsh-

Seattle Seahawks Super Bowl XLVIII - Game Frenzy!

From the Eyes of a Novice!

Author: Vivian Gale

It’s a game people! Was what you would hear me exclaiming every chance I got, to anyone who would listen.  I struggle hard to understand the human affixation with sports. Seriously, growing up I thought if I was Jesus, I’d plan the Second Coming during a Super Bowl.

This is my very first time watching an entire football game. It’s probably my first time watching an entire episode of any game period.  I watched as grown men hurled themselves into a massive herd of man just waiting to leap on him because he was the one with the ball.

What drive and determination, and what inspirations the Seahawks were to me as they conquered their feeble opponents. It will always boggle my mind why the man/player runs the ball right smack into the middle of an obvious impenetrable barrier of men they can’t possibly forge their way through. Oftentimes it’s hard to tell who has the ball . . . explaining the multitude of playbacks one could only dream existed on the Soaps during a fight between Erick Cane and Vicky Buchanan on One Life to Life. Oh, wait, that was taken off with All My Children’s because it’s a “man’s world,” and men don't generally watch soaps; but I digress.

They want us women to watch “The Revolution, a weight loss show, which lasted a few weeks followed by The Chew, a, eat unhealthy food show, followed by the Doctors, and Dr. Oz. Many what a recipe for schizophrenia if I ever saw one. No wonder I’m watching football. There'd really be an earthquake if sports were taken off the air. Oops! No more digressing!

Wow, Seattle’s second touchdown via interception. I wish I could say Denver Broncos are giving it a good go, but; they look more sad and pathetic as the game goes on. I can barely look at them, I feel so bad, being empathic and all. Hum, nice commercial with David Beckham in his underwear sliding across two building in his under-draws like some type of superhero.

I’m feeling something in my stomach as the game goes on, like anxiety, or eagerness. It’s some type of adrenaline I suppose. It is  I guess what causes this game frenzy addiction. I don’t like that feeling so I'm guessing that’s the primary reason I stay away from sports and such. The Denver Bronco’s scored over 600 points this season, more than any other team in history. So, what really happened to Denver, they got eaten alive? They should wait a least one month before going home, Peyton Manning too.

Though I'm not an avid sports fan I must admit I want Seattle to win a bit more than I realize for several reasons:

1.      Seattle, my homeland- Richard Sherman Bragging rights!

2.      Randy, my honey will be difficult to live with for at least 2 weeks

3.      Players- they deserve it and I like to see young people of color succeeding.

Honestly, I never thought I'd see the day when white people cheered in the middle of the street holding up a sign with the head of a black man and a lynching wasn't involved. I'm just keeping it real. I was born in ‘62; the year Kennedy was assassinated so I've lived through the growth of our freedom and the end of slavery, with without its end, none of this would be possible.

Seattle Seahawks scored 3 times when they didn't even have the ball. This game was almost unbelievable to watch. I’m glad I picked this one to watch as my first. No more a virgin. I can't say that I’m a convert either. But, I'm beginning to understand.

From the eyes of a novice who spent most of her life intellectualizing I can say that the things I do believe that make watching sports great are:

1.      Camaraderie

2.      Adrenaline

3.      And a Sense of belonging and or

4.      Fitting in

When you pick a side you belong somewhere. Prior to this, I never felt a part of. I did watch the second half of the NFL Championship Game. And yes, I did get a little help with the terminology from my honey. I feel like I belong, I was part of The 12^th Man, and they were many.

In closing, let me say, it was a hell of a game. Toward the end of it, I had only one pressing question which was answered by Pete Carroll, the Seahawks coach when he stated, “We didn't do anything different. No new tactics, etc. We just played how we always played.” I had been thinking, they must have studied new plays by watching the Bronco’s over the past couple of weeks off and changed their strategies.

Hat’s off to the Seahawks, they are so bad; they bought their weather with them! Ending the game 43-8. After all, “The name of the game is to score isn't it?”

Vivian Gale, Counselor and Author of

Fart in the Wind! www.viviangale.com

2/2/14 © 

Dianetics, The Modern Science of Mental Health, Intro

How To Get Rid Of Boils and HS

(Bonus) TREATMENT FOR BOILS

The following blog is an excerpt from my book, Natural Approaches for the Treatment of Hidradenitis Suppurativa.

I’ve determined that my outbreak of boils are also food related. I can guarantee their appearance by eating certain foods. The best remedy to keep them away is to eliminate the foods that cause them. When you do get boils however, buy and over the counter product from Rite-Aid called, Draw Out Salve. Apply it to the affected area for 2-4 hours then take a hot bath. It works twice as fast with the hot bath, soak 20 minutes. Do not use on open boils. It is non effective on HS sores. If the boil is very just coming and small, usually one treatment or application is enough to dissolve it.

Try to get to the boils as early as possible. Believe it or not, sometime I’m too lazy. I guess I have so much to do for my body it’s understandable. If it is already formed big and deeper it will take a couple of treatments or days to get it down or to open. It will become very painful right before it opens to drain so get you gauze pads ready. My insurance pays for gauze pads 4x4. I use to get 2 boxes per month but don’t need nearly as many now. I do use them in moist areas to keep bacteria from forming.

I’ve tried similar products from other pharmacy’s but Rite-Aide’s product worked the best for me. It cost less than ten dollars. A damp cloth with a hot water bottle can also be as effective as the bath. I’ve never had a boil more than 2 days using this method.

When you get a boil or HS, make a list of everything you’ve eaten even the seasonings. This will help you identify your triggers. You will get to the point when you only eat food you’ve prepared almost entirely so that you know what is in it.

Find out how to keep boils from returning in my book Hidradenitis Suppurativa, Natural Approaches for the treatment of HS.

Get it Together

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"Not in My Family," Gays The New Minority?

"Not in my family! Oh no. This can't be happening! This is no conversation for the dinner table." Aunt Judy is choking on her chitterlings; Uncle LeRoy is praying that nobody dies or has a stroke as the teenage girl continues to proclaim that she is gay.

This is a prominent Christian family with a strong standing in the community. "Go and get 'dat holy oil so we can cast dem ole demons out 'dis here child," Aunt Judy, evangelist and preacher says. Little Robbie runs to the prayer room to fetch it. The cornbread is getting cold. Some of the 16 relatives sit quietly pretending to digest their food in hopes of not getting caught up in the conversation. A couple of the others can't believe this is actually happening.

When someone in the family announces they are gay in any family of any religion or of no religion at all, the family makes the biggest mistake of all: making it about them. It's not about you; it's about the other person. Because everyone is in shock and dealing with the "not in my family" hysterics, the gay person gets forgotten about while everyone is momentarily imagining how this is going to make themselves and the family look to the public.

Once they get over the initial shock and are able to focus on this "gay proclamation," the conversation will go sorta-kinda like this. "Child you ain't gay, you don't even know what you talking about." Child responds, "Yes I am!" "No you ain't now shut up and don't you let those words come out of ‘ur mouth again. And don't go around telling people dat neither. You just got off the titty . . . (sniff sniff); I can still smell the milk on your breath. Chi’ you don't know notin’." Aunt Judy continues, "As a matter of fact everybody get up right now, wes’a going down on our knees. We need to talk to Jesus. Only Jesus can help 'dis child now."

They all get up as commanded by the family leader, Aunt Judy, and head into the prayer room for hours of praying and lamenting over the child, anointing her with holy oil, casting out demons and praying for the salvation of her soul.

This is not just an issue in Christian communities. It is a Muslim problem, a Jewish problem, a Seventh Day Adventist problem, a people problem. It crosses all social classes, races, ages, and religions. One of my children announced to me that they were gay at age 15, and for sure there was that inner sinking feeling like the ground was opening beneath me. But when I sat down and was still present on my living room sofa, I knew I had to face what I had just heard.

I recently let her go to a Gay Pride parade, hoping it would shock her into a new reality, or back to her senses. She did have some comments about it like, "Why do they have to act so weird? It's not about all that." When she asked me if she could go, my internal response was hell no! I almost went into my Aunt Judy role. But I knew I had to let go and allow her to have this experience. I don't want her to grow up hating herself like I did, never feeling good enough for God or others. Going through family dysfunction then ending up in foster care, I was suicidal most of my life. I remembered it was about her and not me.

Gays tend to get into drugs and "weird" behavior because they have been cast out of society and their own families since history has records of their existence. They feel unacceptable so they put on unacceptable behavior, or outlandish behavior. This is a coping mechanism. Using drugs, excessive tattooing, and bold hair coloring is their way of taking a stand and saying "Yes, I am different whether you like it or not. Kiss off."


Can Gays Be Christians?

Can a gay person rightfully be a Christian, Muslim, or any other religion? From an objective view, NO, they cannot. Why? They can call themselves a Christian, but according to their own rulebook, the Bible, they are not; they exclude themselves from the game (Romans chapter 1:21-32). In order to belong to any group, there are rules and criteria for acceptance. Since the Bible speaks against homosexuality, they can continue to call themselves Christians, but exclude themselves from the game so to speak by participating in gay sex.

Romans 1:21-32 says, “Although they knew God, they did not glorify [Him] as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man--and birds and four-footed animals and creeping things. Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever.

For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. And even as they did not like to retain God in [their] knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; [they are] whisperers . . ..

Below is a link to a very well written article presenting the Scripture on the subject and the author’s interpretation. If you don't have a Bible, you can use an online Bible, preferably the New King James Version. http://www.soulforce.org/article/homosexuality-bible-gay-christian

This article is written by Dr. Mel White, co-founder of Soul Force. It seems whatever we believe we can find arguments for or against it. I read this article in its entirety, but I am still left with the feeling this author, with good intentions, is trying to make black, white.

What do you think? Perhaps it's time to stop pointing out at all that's wrong with the world and each other, and find ways to coexist. All I can affirm is I am tired of judgment and condemnation in systems of belief that should be teaching God's love.

In matters of sexual sin and any other sin, the emphasis is placed on who and whose you are above what you do or don't do. Works cannot save you; we are saved by "faith and grace.” There is nothing you can do to earn it. Nothing you have done or will do can change that. Christ died for all sins, past, present, and future. So it is a matter of who and whose you are and not what you do or don't do. Even in the Old Testament the emphasis was on Israel, God’s chosen people, and even though they were rebellious, they still remained His chosen people.

Why call me Lord, Lord, and do not the things that I say? (Luke 6:46) In our efforts to defend the God of the Bible and His judgments, we've become hateful and unlike Him in our robes of righteousness, condemning all that is wrong. Let God do the judging; let’s do the loving as Christ requested. It's interesting that being homosexual is not included in the Ten Commandments, but adultery is. Loving your neighbor as yourself is. As a matter of fact, the last two commandments God said, “On these two hangs the whole law," to love the Lord God with all your heart mind and soul, and to love your neighbor as yourself.” Even if your neighbor is gay you are to love him or her.

Most gays are well aware of what their religions teach about homosexuality. If they are not, they should become knowledgeable about it. Don't try and whitewash what you find to make it fit you. I have to believe that a heart full of love for God/Jesus/Muhammad/The Messiah, or whatever you choose to call God, will be honored in God's eyes. All scripture is left to the interpretation of the reader to some degree. If it's important to you, and you believe it's a matter of your salvation, then you should do the work. Not me. You do it for you. Scripture teaches every man should be persuaded in his own mind, and that we should study to show ourselves approved a workman, rightly dividing the word of truth.

Becoming a Christian is like getting married. As “The bride of Christ,” once you get married you want to know and do what pleases your husband. If you do things that make them unhappy or angry, there will be consequences in your relationship. If you just want to make yourself happy, then only you will be happy and the other will start to withdraw their affection from you.

Our religion shouldn't hurt others. Religion should be something that we self-govern. We should not have others lording over us, telling us how to live. Our pastors and church leaders guide us and we can ask for their assistance when we need it, but change should always be between the individual and the God they serve. It should happen in his or her own heart through the Spirit and out of love for God and desire to improve their relationship. Then, his other choices for change become inwardly provoked as they grow. The individual works through his or her shortcomings in their own time. If, over time, the individual finds that he cannot change, then he is covered by grace. If he will not change, then he will have to answer to God. That person’s activity in the church may be limited by leadership and indeed should be.

If I were gay today, I would not call myself a Christian. I would still love the Lord; I would not count myself out of the game, but with prayer and serious soul contemplation would do all I could to be sure my actions aligned with the God I claim to love and belong to. This is wisdom.
I can say I am in recovery, then drink and get high, then go to meetings and say I'm in recovery. That will be true. But to say, "I am clean and sober” would be a lie. I do all I can to stay clean and sober, because the consequences of not doing so would be devastating.


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Vivian Gale, AS., BA., Counselor
Author of Fart in the Wind

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